The Best Daycare / Preschool for Your Child

Parents sometimes ask me about daycare and preschool options for their children, and most moms and dads openly feel at a loss when searching. This story is for them:



I recently visited a Montessori school.

When walking into this "Primary" classroom, which had a couple dozen 3- to 6-year-olds and one teacher and one assistant, the first thing I observed was a morning greeting. Each boy or girl was welcomed by a warm handshake and hello by the teacher, followed by a simple question: "What would you like to work on this morning?"

And this is where the fun began.


The shelves in this room were filled with all sorts of different "work": from bright books to intriguing math activities, from a painting easel to a pink building tower, from small glass pitchers for pouring water to a child-sized broom and dustpan for cleaning up.

Each of the many items was different, and not only in appearance. For instance, one piece of work could be used for a quick task, while others might engage a child for hours.


There is A LOT to choose from in Montessori classrooms, and everything is clearly made with a keen sense of children's natural curiosity, that familiar and excited, "What's that?"


From this purposeful selection of activities -- virtually all Montessori "materials" are the same across the globe, whether in Manhattan or Mumbai -- each child gets to choose one to work with. (The only requirement is that he or she has already received a lesson on it from the teacher.) When finished, the child just sets that work back on the shelf and chooses another. And this occurs every morning and afternoon, daily.


If/when a child is having trouble choosing work or completing it, the teacher or her assistant is always around to offer a helpful hand.

As I sat on my little kid chair in a corner of the room, I watched individual children make their first choice of the day, each with a thoughtful look of, "Hmm, what do I want to work on?" And all of them happily chose an activity straightaway, with no trouble.

Then something unexpected occurred.

A problem

One child, a little boy probably just about four years old, found himself confronted with a problem.

After he walked away from a shelf with his chosen work in hand -- a math tray with different colored beads for counting -- I noticed a look of uncertainty come across his face. His eyes moved back and forth across the room a few times, and then he said in a low voice to himself: "There are no more tables left."

He was right. The other children had already chosen their work and sat down, taking up all the individual and small-group tables available.

(Incidentally, in Montessori classrooms there are neither huge tables for mass daycare activities nor rows of single desks for traditional blackboard-style lectures.)

As I sat watching this little boy, I could almost see the wheels turning in his head and hear an inner-voice saying, "What do I do now?"

A solution

Before I had a chance to think about what I would have done in his (or his teacher's) place, the boy already had a solution.

He pulled out a small stepping stool he had eyed, placed his work on top of it, and sat down -- the stool serving as his table and the floor as his chair. Then he started working. Just like that.

So only a few minutes after he'd first realized the dilemma, this boy had independently found a way out of it and was now enjoying the morning as if there'd never even been an obstacle in his way.

This is Montessori.


The essence of Montessori education is the development of a child's independence.

Of course there is much more to say. For instance:

--Montessori schooling was created over a century ago by Dr. Maria Montessori, an educator idolized by such giants as Alexander Graham Bell, Thomas Edison, and Helen Keller -- and by children the world over.

--Montessori students consistently outperform their non-Montessori peers in reading and math: they reach reading fluency by age 5 and can do multiplication into the thousands by age 6.

--Some of the most successful individuals in the world are Montessori alumni, e.g. Google co-founders Sergey Brin and Larry Page, Amazon's founder Jeff Bezos. (It looks like Prince George will wind up an alum, too, just like his father.)

But ultimately, what I observed that day in the classroom is what Montessori schools essentially offer: a place for curious children to practice thinking and acting independently, so that years later as young adults they have the earned confidence to choose their own path, and a unique creativity to make new ones.


The name "Montessori" was never trademarked, so selecting a real Montessori school can be challenging. This short video is helpful in that process: How to Choose a Montessori Preschool.

Post by Jesse McCarthy, jemslife


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